For everyone reading this, this is all anecdotal, because it is all conversations (mainly digital but some face to face) that I have had with guys, and some wimminz.
First off we have to admit that not all countries are the same legally, things that the courts can and will do in one country are not the same as what the courts can and will do in another country.
Second we have to admit that we are not the CIA panopticon spying on everyone through their TV and cellphone, so we do not know everything, we only have a sample of data.
Third we have to admit that this sample data may be biased, so you shouldn’t take it as an instruction manual.
My own personal take on this is now some 9 years in the past, that was when I was dragged through the secret family courts, and back then that process took basically two years plus.
Since then we know that all kinds of alleged crimes have been reported, many historical in nature, so the workload and backlog in the courts is much worse now than it was then, so there are still the easy and fast to do “rubber stamp” cases where nobody is arguing about anything and it just needs signing off, and there are still the more serious criminal cases where a proper trial has to be heard, and for everything else there is much more amalgamation, so instead of the utility company applying for 20 different warrants they now apply for a block of 20 warrants and they are all heard together (in both cases assuming nobody shows up to contest) so in short the court system as a whole hasn’t grown significantly in the past 10 years, but the caseload has, in part that has been addressed by doing stuff in blocks, in part by just making everything else wait at the end of the queue even longer than before.
Now there is a difference between being stopped for drink driving on the 5th January 2017 and being told you will be in court to answer for this on the 11th January 2017, and being told you will be in court to answer this on the 18th October 2017, and it’s the sort of difference every parent and every dog owner knows.
If the punishment does not *rapidly* follow the crime, the two things become seen as separate incidents, not connected to one another.
Of course nobody likes punishment, but if it follows closely on the heels of the transgression, you associate the two, and hopefully it moderates your future behaviour, if it is delayed, then it isn’t just disliked, it is seen as unjust and resented…. I ain’t done shit for seven months, why punish me now…
Briefly getting back to the title, rent is like that, you pay it regularly, you note any changes or lack of, and you expect the next one, it’s a lot like doing 60 mph down the road, mile a minute, I have 112 miles to go to my destination and two hours to get there, not a problem, tick tock, it’s a steady beat.
As a species, we like immediacy, take two identical countries, country A and country B, they have identical tax laws, and identical taxes, and identical paperwork, and identical punishments, it’s all identical, except for one thing, in country A if your taxes are filed one hour late within 7 days you are in court, in country B it may take a year or two before you get into court.
No human being alive will think that countries A and B are going to have the same number of tax cases in court…. I have a court date in mid April, no worries, it’s still early March, plenty of time to do the paperwork…. that’s how people work, because between now and mid April, there will be a thousand and one other things I need to deal with.
So back to the people I have been talking to, the subject is payments to ex’s, whether it be alimony or child support or a mixture of both.
More and more and more simply aren’t paying, and I don’t mean they are falling behind but still paying 85% of it because that is all they can do, I mean they can’t pay all of it, so they are paying none of it, and as for the court date to deal with it, haven’t heard, but it won’t be 2017, so fuck it.
So when I say I have been talking to people, I don’t just mean deadbeat dads and ex’s, I mean court staff (there have been changes there too, up to a couple of years ago you could go to the court building and talk to staff, get forms, file forms, make payments, all face to face, now they are no longer there, and you must write to them…) and the court staff are also saying things are changing, the “clients” are saying look, I got 13 months rent, 13 car payments, 13 insurance payments, 13 utility payments, I need new shoes, I’m almost outta toilet roll and work are talking about downsizing, all before this court date next year, and I’m supposed to fill in all these bloody forms that will say how things are when things this month ain’t the same as they were last month…
… and they are basically ignoring it.
Fuck it, I’ll worry about it when it happens, and by then I’ll probably have moved address to retain employment or moved address because I can no longer afford it in my new job, and it’s not like I have any contact with the ex or kids anyway.
And it could be true or it could be lies, but someone in social security tells me that all the ex’s and mums are now saying on their forms that they are no longer getting anything from the ex’s…
And then I go down to the local industrial estate, and amongst other things, it is well know as being *the* place to go and buy a new car for 100 miles around, as they have every main dealer you can imagine there somewhere.
And in what I think is a COMPLETELY unrelated subject, I talk and ask about the stories in the press about new car sales going through the floor and excess inventory everywhere, and I ask this as a sign of the economy in general, and two separate sales guys in two separate dealerships tells me the exact same thing, the numbers of wimminz buying new cars has basically fallen off a cliff, just like that (snaps fingers) only wimminz buying new cars now are the one working full time in careers, and not many of them.
MM, does that really make such a difference, yes they say, the wimminz represented 48% of new car sales last year…
For some reason, half the market basically got culled last year.
One of them tried to sell me a new sprinter, 30% off, it was interesting because quite a few brand new things have been offered to me at 30% off, straight off the bat, recently… and that’s funny because I was always the weird guy who used to haggle and walk away if I couldn’t get at least 5% off, and I often had to work for it.
Never before in the UK have I been offered 30% off new capital equipment as an opening line, and it has happened 4 times so far in 2017, and the cheapest item was 4k.
It would appear there is nothing going on but the rent, and those that can pay their rent every month are focusing on that, fuck next year, you gotta get there first…
… so I have spoken to just about a round dozen guys who either were paying or who are about to pay money to an ex every month, and EVERY SINGLE ONE of them has stopped paying anything at all if they were paying, and stopped making any provisions or plans to pay if they have a future court date.
And NONE of them have done it in a head in the sand can’t be worrying about that now sense, they are all fuck it, not paying, not ever, even if it means living in a tent on the dole, I’ll scale back before I pay, because without exception all of them see it as a punishment for working and trying to get ahead, the harder they try, the more someone else will benefit… and yes generally western society and taxation works like that anyway, so it’s not the principle, but the individual burden.
Almost literally exactly every single one said the exact same thing, “it’s gotten too much”
I can pay my rent and utilities and food and vehicle costs, just, or I can pay the ex and run up arrears in one or more of the above, and what’s the point in that because if I lose my licence for no insurance because I can’t afford it or get the electric and water cut off and get dragged into court or don’t pay rent and the landlord evicts me, I won’t be paying the ex, because I’ll have lost my job… so it’s self preservation time.
Getting back to the car sales guys, the last gasp down there is what amounts to personal leasing, in *theory* I could consider it, or at some time in the future I could consider it… after all leasing business premises will cost me 700 quid a month, (plus VAT) and you can probably add the same again to actually run a business from it, so that’s 1,400 quid a month, so and additional 300-500 a month for a “company” vehicle, whether it be a practical panel van or a directors Merc, isn’t such a big push…. for mum’s who were getting 250 a month minimum just as child support from the deadbeat dad, having that tap turned off means the new for focus they had planned just went bye bye
I *really* did not expect the answers I got from the car sales guys, I *really* did think they would be talking about the economy in general and a general downturn for everyone who wasn’t in the Porsche or Ferrari dealership, I *really* did not expect Renault, Ford and Mercedes guy to say this about the wimminz deserting the place in droves.
They all also said the same thing, thank fuck they weren’t selling Mini’s or the new Fiat 500, they reckoned that’s dropped to zero, not just off a cliff.
I also wasn’t expecting so many guys to say fuck it, not paying anything now, it’s gotten too much, it went from grumbling and complaining to not paying apparently overnight sometime in the last few months.
And I really would not have connected the dots to new car sales either.
It makes talk of reviving the economy interesting, given that the car economy was always such a huge part of the measured economy, and now it seems that nearly half of that was nothing more than a parasitic load, and *now* it seems like the breakers are tripping on that load… no wonder the wimminz are wearing pink cunt costumes and marching, doubling down is just beginning.
For the guys, mainly, ain’t nothing goin on but the rent, got to have a J O B bitch if you wanna be with me…