See, I have this policy, you can more or less sum it up thus;
- I meet you, and you’re a blank slate, what gets written there depends upon you.
- I will learn what you teach me by your actions.
- If there is a difference between your words and your actions, your actions carry the weight, and your words become worthless.
I have had some chats with a few people about a couple of recent posts, the dichotomy between what wimminz do this week, and what they said last week.
To be fair, in my experience, in a lot of cases this isn’t actual malice per se, what happens is this;
- The wimminz says something to you
- The wimminz does something different
- The wimminz realises / remembers you go by the first set of numbers above in blue
- The wimminz feels awkward, and so, like a small child, rather than face up to it they turn away and pretend to ignore the source of the shame, you, for having standards.
- Eventually, possibly, after enough time has passed she will talk to you again.
If you are thinking spoiled 4 year old child, you pretty much have it nailed.
The “problem” here is that when you have someone like most men, who work according to the blue text, and you mix it with wimminz, who work according to the pink text, it is pretty much only a matter of time until the two crash into each other and she invokes option 4.
What you guys have to realise is you can’t make this work, I *used* to express my policy as “I don’t give a fuck how you treat other people, only how you treat me” but the problem with that policy is the assumption that this wimminz is going to treat you differently than she has treated everyone else…. leopards and spots spring to mind.
If you are either unlucky, or stupid, you find yourself in the place I was what is several years ago now, in a relationshit with a wimminz, where there were enough ties that she couldn’t really do #4, or she instead chose secret item 4a, which isn’t written anywhere, which is to hurt you for making her feel shame.
That’s when you start down the road to false accusations of domestic violence, sexual abuse and rape.
Nota Bene, it can be a third party that prevents her taking option 4, doesn’t matter, you are still the source of her angst.
So at this point you either wise up, or you don’t.
If you wise up then you realise that there is absolutely nothing you can do, or not do, to remedy or change the situation one iota, nor was there anything you could have done to prevent it, except perhaps having no standards whatsoever and accepting anything and everything she did unquestioningly.
Never ever ever call pwincess out on her bullshit…
Of course this goes 100% against a man’s nature, which is to alter the environment to suit, he can’t resist meddling, but at some point in your life you just have to learn the lesson that there are some things that not only can NEVER be improved by meddling, but which are also ALWAYS made worse by meddling.
Wimminz be such a thing.
If she has always treated everyone like shit, she is gonna treat you like shit sherlock, and this is one of the reasons I always bail the instant I hear a wimminz say anything negative about any of her ex’s….
Fact is in some cases for whatever reasons I was able to know more than merely what she told me about the hated ex, eg I remember the newspaper mentioning the guy’s name and reporting on the fact he got thrown into prison for 3 years for beating the living shit out of her.
I got news for you, she fucking deserved it, no exceptions, and the only thing standing between you accepting that as fact, and you thinking she is gonna treat you different / better because, after all, you aren’t some low life thug scum, is time spent in her company.
Now I am not actually advocating or excusing violence against da wimminz, or anyone else, but the fact is when a person indulges in a persistent pattern of behaviour, in close proximity to and affecting another person, then the other person is affected by the first person’s behaviour… and depending on the behaviour of the first person that can indeed elicit a violent response from the second person.
I can make *anyone* completely fucking lose it and go postal on me, it’s easy, this is all you have to do
- flick their ear hard
- act contrite and promise never to do it again
- wait 8 to 24 hours
- go to #1
At that point it is just a question of iteration, sooner or later *everyone* will fucking lose it.
Here is something else I have observed.
These nasty ex’s who have lost it come in two categories.
The ones who now have criminal and prison records for violence against her, these always seem to be softer types that worked at keyboards or clerky sort of stuff…. generally they had a long relationship with the bitch before losing it one day and beating the crap out of them.
The ones who had a record before they met the bitch, these are the ones that slapped her upside the head the first time she stepped out of line.
If she has kids, and he never sees them, it tends to be by the first sort.
Now, I am not saying it is better to be the sort of guy who slaps the bitch upside the head at the first sign of disobedience, they are after all both losing strategies, but the guy who takes a lot of shit in silence before eventually breaking is the bigger loser of the two.
So it is worse to be the guy who suffers in silence, hoping one day she will change.
But, at least both of these guys got laid at some point, if you want to be a REAL fucking loser, all you have to do is be one of the niggerz who came running around to pwotect da pwintheth when she dropped a dime on these guys.
Why do you think they hate the other two classes of loser so much…. at least they got to dip their wicks in da pwincess…
Which all brings me to what this post is really about.
Do you do what I do, mainly avoid but select they prey and then pump and dump, or do you do what others do and go ghost and celibate?
Well, #1 you gotta be true to you, that is the biggie.
Frankly speaking, neither path offers significant advantages over the other when it comes to protecting yourself from future malicious false allegations…. the prosecution can make a case either way, and the bit you need to get is that the real damage starts at the point of allegation / accusation, when da police niggerz swing into action against your ass.
This is the point where things go hard or easy depending on whether or not you have been true to yourself. Principles, it’s a lot harder to railroad a guy who has been demonstrably living according to his own unique set.
Just like the skank who has always said one thing and done another, living by your principles, whether that be pump and dump or abstinence, does something very very important.
It builds a pattern of behaviour.
The best guide to both someone’s future actions and possible / probable past actions is to look at their pattern of behaviour, does whatever this thing is fit in with it, or not?
If it does, then it is probably true, if it doesn’t, then it probably isn’t.
I don’t want to say that is how I “beat” my FRA, because above all else it was a FALSE rape accusation, FALSE DV accusation, etc, but, these false allegations and accusations did not fit with the observable pattern of behaviour of my life.
This is a million miles away from saying that the observable pattern of behaviour of my life painted a picture of an exceptional and wonderful human being, on the contrary it painted a picture of someone pretty fucking ordinary when it came right down to it, full of the usual complement of flaws and weaknesses and frailties.
And there is the rub, if you take someone who has an observable pattern of being a gambling fool, but no history of violence, you have a hard job painting them as a violent thug.
People start to ask, if this guy has these tendencies that are so close to the surface, how come everything we can observe highlights all this other shit?
Why is there none of THIS shit? Did he just suffer a blow to the head, or some other explanation, for what is in effect an alleged change of personality?
If you are like me, and you like cunt, then trying to emulate someone who can just go ghost and celibate ain’t gonna sit right, look right, or feel right.
If you can do those things naturally, then more power to you.
If you can’t, then you need to do what I do, which is *attempt* to indulge them, while remaining true to your principles.
That doesn’t mean dating skank ho single mommies and ignoring all that bad shit because what you are really after is getting laid, that there, see, that is when you start doing shit that doesn’t fit.
If you end up on swinging / fucking sites where people are openly offering NSA sex, fairy nuff.
If you still can’t get that shit together, put away 25 a week and once a month drop a dime on a whore.
And here we come to the really important part.
Starting to fuck whores isn’t a change in WHO YOU ARE, it is a change in WHAT YOU DO, the two are not necessarily the same thing.
You’re still fucking, you are paying cash directly now instead of indirectly, but you are still fucking, which is closer to what you used to do with the skanky ex than getting your fucking by hanging with a skank ho single mommy and her womb turds and playing beta step daddy. (assuming there were no step kids with the skanky ex)
What matters is you are still fucking, not that you are now paying cash for it.
What matters is you are still not hanging with other men’s kids, not that you’re only doing it because you are banging their mummy.
Yes, it’s subtle, but all the important aspects of human nature are, and subtle or not this is just the sort of shit we have evolved to notice and judge.
Take my mate Jim, now Jim has always been an Elvis asshole, and a mad on Elvis and insists on singing Elvis songs even though he can’t sing a fucking note to save his life asshole who insists on saying thangyaverymuch and uhhuh.
Jim went through a similar experience to me.
Nobody, and I mean nobody, buy’s her version of events, not even da po-lice who arrested him etc etc.
She took all his shit, all his LP’s posters rhinestone and you fucking name it, even cost him his job house and kids.
Jim still listens to Elvis, when da po-lice said we ain’t gonna charge you 15 months after arresting him he says thangyaverymuch and walks out the station, singing Men With Broken Hearts (an Elvis song) and so in many ways his life has changed utterly.
Jim now bangs whores once every six weeks, like clockwork, he tell’s em thangyaverymuch and sings She’s Not You as he walks away (another Elvis song)
Jim stuck to his principles, I wasn’t there, but apparently when the po-lice interrogated him as to the alleged rapes and domestic violence his answer was he didn’t do that, and when they pushed him he said he didn’t do that, because the King wouldn’t have done it.
I know maybe one person who actually gets where Jim is coming from, and he thinks Bob Marley was God, but *everyone* buys his story and n0t hers, because what he does is changed, but he is still who he always was, and that’s what counts with people.
Jim didn’t get shit on from a great height because he was an Elvis loving asshole, he got shit on because she was a worthless skank ho and the world is full of niggerz, so stopping being an Elvis loving asshole isn’t going to change anything…. except it will break that pattern of who Jim is, and at THAT point you might start to question what else about him you don’t know, or has changed.
I just got word, Jim died in hospital yesterday morning, heart attack, funeral is Saturday, asked if I can make it, said yeah, it’s only 200 miles, I was told 2 things.
1/ Don’t worry about dress, they’ve grabbed an Elvis costume in my size…
2/ Don’t tell his skank ho ex, this is a service for Jim’s mates only.
It would appear that those intangible and ever so subtle things, Jim’s principles, lasted longer than his heart.